Coffee Chats: My Dad (Part 1)

Let me introduce George Allan Love, also known as Allan, also known as my dad. I've wanted to do a scattered series of sorts where I interview people with different backgrounds and skill sets. Nothing is better then broadening our horizons. Picking my first interviewee was a no brainer. My dad has a bachelors in Theology, Masters in Biblical Studies, and a Doctoral degree in Missional Leadership. Most of my interactions with intellectuals can honestly can be quiet aggravating, but never with my dad. I've always loved the way his mind works and how he uses his knowledge to better the world. He sees the world in such a humble way and greatly inspires me to pursue what God has for me, not for personal gain, but because it is whats right. 


I popped over on Instagram to see what kind of questions you wanted me to ask him and ya'll came up with some GREAT stuff. Since we both found the great importance of the questions you were asking we thought it would be best to break this up into a few parts so each question got the attention it deserves. 

Q: First off, for those who don't know you that well, how would you describe yourself? Likes, dislikes, favorite pass times?

For those who see the value in personality profiling (as I do – there, you’ve already learnt one thing about me that I like) I’m a mixed-breed on the Enneagram (Type 3 and 5 – an intellectual achiever), and E/ISTJ on the Myers Brigg Type (Executor-Driver), Red-Zone Reformer on the Insights Discovery Profile, and most importantly, a child of God, on the Bible scale.  Descriptors that have been used by others for me (which I resonate with) are: passionate, determined, sexy (okay – that may not have been said about me), focused and resilient.  I may come across … no let’s be honest and change that … I do come across as non-emotive to some, but I feel my emotions very deeply – and I know this because I find myself listening, often, to Josh Groban and tearing up.

I love to read and run, as well chill with family and friends over coffee or a nice glass of white wine.  I dislike people who talk too much, but not when they have drunk to much wine, because that can be very funny!  I enjoy a good crime-thriller movie every-once in-a-while.  When I took those career tests in high-school my top result was a detective, but pastoring paid so much more, I decided to go in that direction.

Ultimately, I am a human who is learning to see that every element of life is ready to burst forth the beauty, glory, and love of God – we just need to be willing look long enough to see it.


Q: How do you think your education has impacted your personality?

I am truly grateful for my educational journey that has taken me all the way through a doctorate degree.  I went to institutions that encouraged and equipped me to think outside the box, and to color beyond the lines.  At times, boxes and lines can be good and necessary, like when you need to wrap a birthday present or know where the 400m race finishes, but when it comes to innovative and fresh thinking they can be an impediment.  On the Strengths-Finder profile my top strength is that of a Learner – there is a part of me that is a perpetual student, so my education has fueled that part of me.  At the same time, however, knowledge (this is the Type 5 in me) has become for me on more occasions that I would like to admit, a security blanket, as well as a protective shield that I have been able to hide behind when I feel insecure.  So, I need to be mindful of this reality and intentional in addressing it.  

Q: Was there any information you learned during your educational journey that really challenged you? Did it change the way you approached your faith?

I grew up in a broken home (my parents separated when I was 8 years old which wreaked havoc on my emotions/soul) which transitioned me from a homo-sapien to a solo-sapien – doing life on my own because people could not be trusted (they will always let you down). A big and challenging part of my education was that true transformative learning needed to happen in community and relationships, that’s how we have been created.  Learning in isolation (whatever the topic or subject) will always lead to some form on insulation, limiting my growth as a human being and Christ-follower.  True learning happens in the fiber and fabric of real, authentic, life-on-life relationships.  


Q: Could you talk about your take on egalitarianism and complementarianism  as well as  what the Bible says about it... can the church be doing better when it comes to female pastors and church leaders?

I consider myself both a complementarian and an egalitarian.  Complementarian in that God created male and female each with unique characteristics that are to complement each other; and precisely because of that, we truly need each other in the equal and full expression of all gifts - especially with the gifts leadership, pastoring, and teaching … and that is why I am an egalitarian.  This, is what I believe the narrative of Scripture says about this most important subject.  There are segments in the church universal that need to recognize how they have stunted, caged and neutered the full expression of so many gifts by limiting how certain gifts are exercised based on one’s sex.  In doing this, churches are (re)marginalizing what God has come to un-marginalize, and this breaks my heart.  So, yes, there are churches that could do a much better job.

Stay tuned for more next week. Thank you for taking the time to read and listen. The point of this is to simply learn and open our minds to what the knowledge of an individual other than ourselves can bring to the table.